As human beings we are expert procrastinators and excuse makers. We will find nearly any reason to put things off. And we make those reasons sound really good. We will dress them up in clever language that let’s us convince ourselves (and others, if we possibly can) that it’s really not out choice. Here are some phrases that should be immediately removed from you vocabulary.
When the time is right…
And when will that be exactly? Have you noticed yet that the time is never right for anything?
The only time you should ever be waiting for “when the time is right” is if there is there a specific time on the horizon that you have already identified as the no-doubt–about-it correct time to do whatever it is you need/want to do. This means you know the exact (or close to exact) date time and place that will be the correct/right time. For example, I knew I wanted to propose to my girlfriend, and though I was waiting for the right time to do it, I knew exactly when that time would be, it was a firm plan I had committed to.
Or is the “right time” just some vague undefined nothing? Is the right time just a void in space you have created like a proverbial junk drawer that just keeps filling up and never gets accessed?
If it’s the latter it might be time to ask yourself some tough questions such as, “Is this really something I care about in the first place, or am I just pretending?”. If it turns out you are just pretending, it’s time to clear out the junk drawer to make room for the things that do matter to you. If however you do actually care about doing whatever it is, than for goodness sake, get it out of that junk drawer and put is somewhere where it will actually get done.
I’ve always wanted to…
You always wanted to do it, so why didn’t you? Probably because you were waiting until the time was right.
If there was ever a recipe for a disappointing life, it’s becoming to comfortable saying these words. Our time on this earth is extremely short. Surely you have noticed that each year seem to pass a little faster than the last. And, you have probably also noticed that as that time passes we tend to get older, not younger. Do you want to be on your death-bed thinking about all of the things you always wanted to do? Or do you want to be laying there peacefully knowing you lived every day to the fullest extent possible, and that anything you didn’t do was only because you were too busy doing other things that were just as important to you?
If you always wanted to do something, then do it now while you still have time.
I don’t know how to…
I don’t know how, and it’s sibling phrases, “I can’t” and “I’m not good at” are some of the most disingenuous words we can possibly say.
I know you don’t know how. Thomas Edison had no idea how to make a light bulb before he started trying either. He just kept trying until he figured it out.
You can not let the fact that you don’t know how to do something stop you from doing it. The ONLY way to learn how to do something is to try it. By trying it you will discover what works and what doesn’t, and more importantly what does and does not work for YOU.
I don’t know how is such a ridiculous statement it’s not even funny, and yet people say it every day without a trace of irony. How many of the following have you said or heard someone else say?
- I don’t know how to draw
- I don’t know how to start my own business
- I don’t know how to invest
- I don’t know how to build a website
- I don’t know how to read music
- I don’t know how to ride a donkey
- I don’t know how to get into politics
- I don’t know how to speak French
For most of us, if were heard someone else say any of those things, we wouldn’t even bat an eye. We’d just accept that it was the truth, and move on. After all some people are better and things than others right? Not everyone can be expected to know everything.
Undoubtedly yes, but consider the following similar statements: